Well, that wasn’t supposed to happen. You heard all about this booty call thing and did the one night stands and now suddenly the guy you slept with, doesn’t want to leave. You’ve become stuck in this pitiful relationship with a guy that had only one purpose. Sex. Yeah, women do it too.

Booty Call Gone Bad

Bad booty calls. They probably account for almost all of them. Most booty calls never turn out right unless you quickly enter a relationship and genuinely like each other. Having random sex that leads nowhere makes sex convenient and unspecial. It’s not valued for anything more than what it is.

You might have a booty call that you fall in love with, and the feelings aren’t mutual. This also leads nowhere. On the other side of the coin? He falls in love with you. On night one. Maybe it was your sextiing skills or your compatibility in bed, or maybe it was just this guy saw all the beauty in you. Now he won’t let go and you’re stuck. It’s tough to break a man’s heart. But ya gotta do it.

Ask Why You Don’t Want Him

Before you consider yourself stuck in limbo with your lover, you should probably ask yourself what made you sleep with him. Maybe you couldn’t control your urges, or maybe there was something about him that just felt right. If you’re scared of commitment and are the type to run from relationships you may want to consider if you could really never love him, or if you’re just feeling like things are moving too fast. It’s a wonderful feeling to be loved and you should at least be happy that this guy stuck around. For now. Ask yourself why you don’t want him.

If you’re scared of commitment and are the type to run from relationships you may want to ask yourself if you could really never love him, or if you’re just feeling like things are moving too fast.

It’s a wonderful feeling to be loved and you should at least be happy that this guy stuck around. For now. Ask yourself why you don’t want him.

Be Kind to Him

Let the guy know right away once you’re certain this is going nowhere.

One day you might have a son who will go through rejection, so it pays to be compassionate and think of how he might feel. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with telling him you just don’t want a relationship. It’s less personal and doesn’t make it about him or any of his potential shortcomings.

Cut it Off

If your one-night stand is still sticking around it’s either because he is completely enamored by you, or because you are busy sending mixed messages to keep him available should you get desperate on a Friday night.

Cut off the booty calls and stop breaking this man’s heart. ANY man that wants to stay and cuddle after the deed is worthy of consideration. With that said, avoid potential suitors who immediately want to settle down with you and wear the boyfriend label, far before earning it. This love-bombing tactic is a subtle sign of a narcissist, and that’s your flashing, blinking, “hey over here!” sign to run. Now.

 

 

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